Why Complaining is Bad For Your Health

I do it. You probably do it, too.  Most of us love to complain about life's frustrations, challenges, annoyances and complications .  Research says that in a typical conversation, we complain about something about once every minute.  It's a common thing.  Just a harmless way to let off a little steam.

Wrong!!  

According to science - all that complaining can actually be harmful to our health.  Here's how:

Negative talk is a slippery slope.  You see, the brain can rewire itself.  Whenever we have repeated thoughts, they create neural connections.  The more these thoughts are repeated, the stronger those connections become and other neural connection cells decrease.  As the connections become stronger the brain focuses more on the negativity.  This makes it easier and easier to focus on negative thoughts while pushing out more enjoyable, positive thought processes. This can lead to an increase in stress, anxiety and even worsen depression.  A 2014 study by the University of California found that chronic stress may cause changes in the brain that makes people more susceptible to anxiety and other mood disorders.  Frequent complaining may also shrink the hippocampus, the area of the brain related to memory and problem solving. 


All those negative thought processes have an affect on your physical health also.  

Whenever you complain, your body releases higher levels of Cortisol (aka - the stress hormone).  High cortisol levels can be harmful to the heart, cause an increase in blood pressure, and lead to a higher body weight. One study published in the Archives of General Psychiatry in 2004 found that pessimistic people had a higher risk of death from heart failure than those who are more optimistic.  

It's not just your own complaining either!  Listening to others moan and groan causes damage also.  That's right - secondhand complaining is bad for your health.  So, if you want to kick the complaining habit and improve your mental and physical health - surround yourself with positive people!

This post is in no way intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment and before undertaking a new healthcare regimen, and nd never disregard medical advice or delay seeing help because of something you read on this website

5 Tips for Creating An Attitude of Gratitude

Gratitude is a learned behavior.  It is something that has to be cultivated. It has to be intentional.  It has to be nurtured.

You see this as you watch parents and other caregivers with small children; as they tell the little one to "Say 'thank you'" or prompting "What do you say?"  But it also holds true for adults.  If we  don't practice being thankful, it is easy to slip into a pattern of complaining, comparisons, and discontentment.

At the beginning of the year I made the choice to begin publishing my Spirit of Gratitude posts only once a month instead of weekly.  It wasn't a good choice.  As I spread out those thankful posts, I began to write less and less often in my gratitude journal (something I had been doing daily)  I started scrambling to try remembering several things I was thankful for each month to get the post written.   Last month, I even ended up skipping the post all together.

It occurred to me over the weekend that this is NOT living a spirit of gratitude. I'm getting myself back on track.  I invite all of you to join me in cultivating an attitude of gratitude in your own lives.

Not sure where to start?  I've got you covered! 

Here are a few practical steps to cultivate gratitude in you daily life:

• Say "Thank you"
• When someone does something nice, or helpful, be quick to say "Thank you".  Everyone like to feel appreciated. 

• Start Your Day With Gratitude
• Take a few moments each morning to give thanks for good in your life.  A positive start sets you up for a positive day.  When gratitude becomes a part of your morning routine, you will find yourself  more aware of the good things in your life instead of focusing on the negatives.

• Stop Complaining
• Try to stop complaining and criticizing for an entire week.  Complaining feels good while you're doing it,  while you're soaking up the sympathetic attention you receive from doing it.  But in the end it just fuels negativity - not just for you, but also for those you complain to or criticize!

• Keep a Gratitude Journal
• Every day write down 5 things you are thankful for.  They might be general or specific.  They may be big things or small little things.  It doesn't matter what it is - just write down something!  This weekend I was talking to a friend who told me that every day her husband mails her a post card at work with a list of 5 things he is thankful for.  And #1 is always "You".  -  I KNOW!!  How sweet is that!?!?  

• Remember What You're Thankful For
• We all have them - those days when you just don't feel especially grateful for anything.  Maybe everything feels like it's going wrong and you're struggling to find the good.  On those days, read through your previous entries into your gratitude journal to remind yourself of all the good things in your life!  This helps you to move past the negativity and shift your focus on gratefulness.  

These are some guidelines I try to use for living a life filled with thankfulness.  Do you have any special tips for helping keep your mind and spirit focused on gratitude?

PS:  The Spirit of Gratitude posts will be returning as a weekly feature beginning this Thursday! 

PSS:  THANK YOU to Jenny for letting me share the story of the daily postcards from her hubby!