Day 14: Love takes delight
Remember when you first fell in love with your spouse? Everything about him was so delightful and interesting. You wanted to spend every moment together. He was constantly on your mind. You were just so overcome with these powerful new feelings.
It's unrealistic to expect to always have our feelings for our spouse remain at that level. We can't expect to maintain a life long relationship on feelings alone. There are going to be days when you just don't feel very loving toward our spouse.
(I mean... obviously not the Man of the House, because as we learned on Day 5 I am clearly such a delight and he is surely always overcome with love and joy at the thought of me every minute of every single day... *snort*)
As humans, we often have a tendency towards disapproval. Something he does aggravates us like you would not believe. Something we do gets on his nerves. Next thing we know, we are always focusing on those negative things. We criticize more than we praise. We nag more than we laugh. We let those negative feelings lead us down a dark and broken path.
We have to make a choice. A choice not to always follow our heart, but to lead it. We have to remember that life is too short to bicker over petty things.
Think back again to those early days of the relationship. All the things you took delight in at that time. If you felt love and pleasure once - you can again.
Delight in your spouse. Seek his company. Talk to him. Enjoy him. Relearn what you love about your spouse.
TODAY'S DARE: PURPOSELY NEGLECT AN ACTIVITY YOU WOULD NORMALLY DO SO YOU CAN SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR SPOUSE. DO SOMETHING HE OR SHE WOULD LOVE TO DO OR A PROJECT THEY'D REALLY LIKE TO WORK ON. JUST BE TOGETHER.
I have a confession. I sort of stalled on this one. It just wasn't as simple as I thought it was going to be. And to be completely honest, there were a few times when a moment passed and after the fact I realized that I had missed an opportunity to fulfill this dare. I was going to have to be much more intentional if I planned to successfully complete this day's dare. This one might take a few days to complete.
We have started having a Family Game Night at my suggestion. Each week we pick one night and take turns suggesting a game. Just us, as a family - playing together. Oh sure... some night I would rather be watching tv, or reading, or doing crochet than say... playing X-Box. But I put that aside to spend time with the Man of the House (and the rest of the family)