Tuesday, November 30, 2021

When Things Don't Go As Expected

I had an entire long weekend to plan and prepare, and yet - here I am - already running behind for this week. Which is why this should have been my Monday post, but instead, you're reading it on a Tuesday. 


It seems to happen to me a lot lately. I get distracted so easily. Or I just completely lose my train of thought and end up doing something that wasn't part of my original plan or to-do list. It's a whole thing. 

Speaking of things that don't go as expected.  Our Thanksgiving was smaller than expected.  The weekend before our daughter thought she was getting a nasty cold or a sinus infection.  On Monday she tested positive for Covid. And then, the grand kid started displaying some possible symptoms. So, she and her family weren't able to come for dinner on Thanksgiving. 

The grandkid was able to get an appointment for a test yesterday and he was positive.  So, even though he is already feeling better, he has to stay home from school this week.  His mom on the other hand has felt pretty terrible for an entire week.  Headache, congestion, no sense of smell or taste, exhaustion.  But fortunately, no fever, and her breathing has been ok.  Hopefully, she starts feeling much better soon.

We decorated the house for Christmas over the weekend.  Finally!  If it had been entirely up to me, the tree would have gone up the day after my birthday earlier this month. Sadly, the Man of the House and our son kept fighting me on that. So, I waited not so patiently until Thanksgiving had passed. 

Have you decorated for the holidays yet?


Thursday, November 25, 2021

Happy Thanksgiving

I'm taking a break from the usual Thankful Thursday post to prepare for and celebrate Thanksgiving with family.  But you can still join me in my Instagram stories to see the daily gratitude list I am sharing each day this week. I hope you enjoy your day!




Monday, November 22, 2021

Monday Musings: Thanksgiving

 It's Thanksgiving week! Who else is excited?

As you probably know, gratitude is a big thing for me. I keep a daily gratitude journal.  Every Thursday I share some of the items for the past week in my Thankful Thursday posts. 


I've said it before and I will say it again: No matter how bad things seem, there is always something in your life to be thankful for. Even if it's as simple as that the sun came up for another day or that you're still breathing. Sometimes it's just a matter of changing our perspective or attitude towards our circumstances  (Read That Thing You're Complaining About for more on this)

The day we call Thanksgiving comes only once a year. But the act of thanksgiving, the practice of gratitude should be an everyday occurrence. Let's make this week the beginning of a new habit of thankfulness. Let's help each other do just that! Join me in my Instagram stories this week, and let's share something we are thankful for each day.



Friday, November 19, 2021

What No One Told Me About Menopause: It's Hot

This post is meant to share what I have learned about menopause based on my personal experience. It is in no way intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment and before undertaking a new healthcare regimen.  Never disregard medical advice or delay seeking help because of something you read on this website.

If I had a dollar for every time I have said "Why is it so hot in here?" over the last couple of years, I would have - well, a LOT of dollars!  


Everyone knows about hot flashes and menopause.  Right?  Most everyone?  Probably everyone.  The majority of women going through perimenopause or menopause experience them.  But what do we really know about them?  What do they feel like? What causes them? And what can we do about them?  

Let's start with what we feel during a hot flash:
  • a sensation of heat in the upper body - chest, face, neck, and arms (makes sense, right?)
  • redness of the skin causing it to appear blotchy or as if you are blushing
  • sweating
  • increased heart rate
  • feelings of stress or anxiety
In my experience, these symptoms can range from mild where I just feel a little warmer and flushed, to a full-on "I'm on fire" sensation with sweat pouring out of my chest, back, and underarms.  (you're welcome for THAT mental image)  They can be rather short - just a minute or two.  Or they can last for several minutes. 

Why do we experience these flashes of heat during perimenopause and menopause?  Well, to be completely honest - no one exactly knows for sure.  But, according to the Mayo Clinic, fluctuating estrogen levels cause the hypothalamus to become more sensitive to temperature changes - even slight ones. When our body's thermostat thinks we've become too warm, it starts a series of events to cool us down resulting in a hot flash.  

This makes sense to me because I seem to be much more sensitive to temperature these days - both hot and cold.  I'm constantly adding or shedding layers of clothing, opening and closing windows, and adjusting the heat or air in my car in an attempt to stay comfortable. 

So, the big question - what can we do about them?  Unfortunately, if you are one of the many women who will experience hot flashes, there doesn't seem to be anything we can do to completely avoid them.  But there are things we can do to help reduce the frequency or intensity of them and ways to cope when they do strike.

  • Avoiding caffeine, alcohol, and spicy foods which may trigger hot flashes. 
  • Sip cold water when you feel a hot flash coming on.  
  • Adding plant estrogens into your diet may with the frequency and severity of hot flashes. Examples of plant estrogens include soy, chickpeas, lentils, and flaxseeds.
  • Dress in layers. 
  • Keep your room at a cooler temperature. 
  • Quit smoking
  • Try meditation, yoga, or breathing exercises to help relax and ease stress
  • Herbal  and/or vitamin supplements such as black cohosh, evening primrose, Vitamin E, etc 
  • Hormone replacement therapy (HRT)
I recommend talking with your health care provider before starting any supplements or making any drastic dietary changes. They can help you decide what might work best for you and assure that they won't react negatively with any medications you are currently taking. 

For the first few years, my hot flashes were not bad at all.  They happened infrequently and didn't bother me too much.  Until they did.  It seemed as if all of a sudden they were happening much more often. Several times a day.  And they were more intense when they occurred.  I started cutting back on caffeine and added sugars, and started taking Black Cohosh, Red Clover, and Evening Primrose supplements.  This seems to be helping and my hot flashes are feeling less frequent and more manageable. 

Stay cool!


  











Thursday, November 18, 2021

Thankful Thursday: November 18, 2021

 



I Am Thankful For:

Today

My air fryer

A big order completed

Cute puppy pictures

A clean and organized pantry

Getting to pick the grandkid up from school

Cozy evenings

An autumn drive

A day with the grandkid

A healthy dog

A new plant stand

The energy to clean out both freezers

Learning new things

Movie night at home

Running errands with the Man of the House

Clear blue skies

Bright red autumn leaves

Sunday morning

Christmas music

Wednesday, November 17, 2021

What I'm Reading Wednesday: The Children's Blizzard

 Historical fiction is one of my favorite genres.  I would even go so far as to say it is my absolute favorite.  I enjoy seeing history come to life in a work of fiction.  And I love it, even more, when a novel introduces me to a historical event that I knew little to nothing about before I opened the novel.  This was the case with The Children's Blizzard by Melanie Benjamin.  

"The New York Times bestselling author of The Aviator's Wife reveals a little-known story of courage on the prairie: the freak blizzard that struck the Great Plains, threatening the lives of hundreds of immigrant homesteaders--especially their children.


The morning of January 12, 1888, was unusually mild, following a long cold spell, warm enough for the homesteaders of the Dakota territory to venture out again, and for their children to return to school without their heavy coats--leaving them unprepared when disaster struck. At just the hour when most prairie schools were letting out for the day, a terrifying, fast-moving blizzard struck without warning. Schoolteachers as young as sixteen were suddenly faced with life and death decisions: keep the children inside, risk freezing to death when fuel ran out, or send them home, praying they wouldn't get lost in the storm?

Based on actual oral histories of survivors, the novel follows the stories of Raina and Gerda Olsen, two sisters, both schoolteachers--one who becomes a hero of the storm, and one who finds herself ostracized in the aftermath. It's also the story of Anette Pedersen, a servant girl whose miraculous survival serves as a turning point in her life and touches the heart of Gavin Woodson, a newspaperman seeking redemption. It is Woodson and others like him who wrote the embellished news stories that lured immigrants across the sea to settle a pitiless land. Boosters needed immigrants to settle territories into states, and they didn't care what lies they told them to get them there--or whose land it originally was.

At its heart, this is a story of courage, of children forced to grow up too soon, tied to the land because of their parents' choices. It is a story of love taking root in the hard prairie ground, and of families being torn asunder by a ferocious storm that is little remembered today--because so many of its victims were immigrants to this country."  (synopsis courtesy Goodreads.com )

The Children's Blizzard, or Schoolhouse Blizzard, hit the Great Plains on January 12, 1888.  The days preceding had been brutally cold, but this morning dawned pleasant and mild.  As a result, many left their homes without their usual heavy winter clothing and coats - leaving them unprepared for the storm that would unexpectantly arrive during the late afternoon.  The blizzard suddenly began just as children were being released from school for the day.  Teachers (many of them still teenagers themselves) faced the life or death decision of whether to send out into the storm or try to wait it out in school houses ill-prepared to provide shelter through such a vicious storm.  Hundreds were caught out in the storm. It is a riveting and tragic story.  

Unfortunately, I found many of the main characters lacking in dimension and unlikable.  While well written, the story drags in several places, especially when focusing on the non-relevant personal dramas of the characters rather than the storm and its aftermath.  However, if you press through those portions of the novel, it is an interesting - although sad - story.

⭐⭐⭐


Monday, November 15, 2021

Making A List and Checking It Twice

I made a pretty big mistake last week.  I got busy last weekend and didn't prioritize making a list of goals and tasks to do for the week.  And, as a result, I was pretty much all over the place every single day. I couldn't seem to focus or stay on task with anything I tried to accomplish.  

Fortunately, I still managed to get several things, such as completing an order, cleaning and reorganizing the pantry, and cleaning out both freezers. But other things never happened, like writing blog posts or rearranging the dining room.  

I found out the hard way that I really need that visual list of things I want to complete to keep myself on track and accountable.  Without it, I drift through the days without much sense of direction or urgency.  Lesson learned. 

Not only does keeping a weekly (and daily) list of goals and tasks help me to stay focused and organized, but it gives me a nice sense of accomplishment as I check items off the list. Without it, I often find that I feel like I didn't get much done - even though I really did. 

And since we're talking about my list for the week.  Here it is:

  • Create and run "Before Black Friday' sale in Etsy shop
  • Complete and mail 3 orders
  • Rearrange dining room
  • Catch up on laundry
  • Focus on writing new blog posts

I'll be more intentional about making my lists of goals and tasks from now. Do you keep a regular to-do list?


Thursday, November 11, 2021

Thankful Thursday: Novemver 11, 2021

 


I Am Thankful For:

My birthday month

The crescent moon in the dawn sky

Birthday presents

The scent of fresh coffee

Lunch with my dad and his wife

Goals reached

Podcasts

A week of birthday surprises

Yarn ball winder

The first cold weather of the season

Cute dog bandanas

A stunning sunset

French toast

Phone call with my mom

When the time "falls back"

Meal planning for the week ahead



Thursday, November 4, 2021

Thankful Thursday: November 4, 2021

 



I Am Thankful For:

A cup of hot tea with honey

Autumn blue skies

Nyquil

Feeling a little better

Fall colors

Sherbert

God's grace

Forgiving others for hurting my feelings

Trying new things in the air fryer

The scent of dinner cooking in the crockpot

The dogs making me laugh

Chocolate

Colorful pens

Laughing so hard I can't catch my breath

Jack o'lanterns

Spending an afternoon with my daughter

Watching scary movies with the Man of the House

My son going to the store for me

New monthly goals


Wednesday, November 3, 2021

What I'm Reading Wednesday: The Quiet Girl

Have you ever read a book that was just completely messed up and insane - but in all the right ways?  For me, that book was The Quiet Girl by S. F. Kosa.


"When Alex arrives in Provincetown to patch things up with his new wife, he finds an empty wine glass in the sink, her wedding ring on the desk, and a string of questions in her wake. The police believe that Alex's wife simply left, his marriage crumbling before it truly began. But what Alex finds in their empty cottage points him toward a different reality:

His wife has always carried a secret. And now she's disappeared.

In his hunt for the truth, Alex comes across Layla, a young woman with information to share, who may hold the key to everything his wife has kept hidden. A girl without a clear recollection of her own past. A strange, quiet girl whose memories may break them all.

To find his wife, Alex must face what Layla has forgotten. And the consequences are anything but quiet.
" (description via GoodReads.com)

A lot was going on in this novel.  I mean, a lot!  For the first third of the book or so, I couldn't figure out what was going on.  OK, that's not true.  I knew exactly what was going on.  I just couldn't figure out how the two narratives were related.  Once that was cleared up,  I still found myself thinking "Wait... WHAT is going on here??" every few pages.  

I could have done without the entire portion involving Alex's work and the drama going on there.  I'm not sure what the point was or how it added to the story in any way.  For me, it just added a lot of unnecessary extra goings-on that distracted me from the main storyline and could have been left out.  

All in all,  there was plenty of suspense and twists to keep me guessing right up until the very end. Another case of "stayed up too late to finish this book". 


Monday, November 1, 2021

Currently... November 2021

Happy Birthday to me!!  Yes, today is my birthday.  Which one, you ask?  Well, I don't mind telling you that this makes me 52 years old.  Although, I usually tell people that I don't have birthdays.  We just observe "Celebrate Beckey" day on November 1st.  That way, I don't get any older, but everyone can still acknowledge me and give me gifts if they want to do so.  

Remember when people in their 50's seemed so old?  I don't know, maybe you're young enough that they still do seem really old.  Trust me. we're not.  I may be 52, but (almost) every single day I still feel exactly the same as when I was 25.  A little wiser.  My back and hips hurt a little more often. But otherwise - the same. Sometimes I actually have to remember how old I am and it takes me by surprise.

My birthday always gets me thinking about goals and plans for the next year.  Evaluating how I have been doing with previous goals.  Considering where I want to go from here.  Do you do the same thing? 

Working On: Already thinking about goals for next year and first quarter plans for the blog and my Etsy shop.  I'm trying to be a little more proactive instead of waiting until the last minute to make plans and goals (like I was doing this weekend for November)

Celebrating: This week is all about my birthday.  Yep, that's right.  I get a whole week of birthday celebration.  From an afternoon with my daughter this past weekend, to lunch with my dad and his wife tomorrow to celebrating with my husband later this week.  Later this month we will celebrate our 29th anniversary and immediately afterward there's Thanksgiving.

Wanting/Needing: To clean out our chest freezer in the basement.  I can't find anything in there right now.  And while I am at it - the pantry closet is well overdue for a good purging and reorganization.  Both of those things are on my list of goals for this month.

Eating: I recently came into possession of an air fryer.  At the moment  I am obsessed with using it to cook fish!  In the past two weeks, I have tried swordfish (good!) and mahi-mahi (even better!) I can't wait to try salmon, and maybe some cod or tuna.

Loving: Thinking about the upcoming holidays.  I am getting excited about decorating the house for Christmas.  I am already planning how I want my coffee station and mantle to look this year. (spoiler alert - it's very much like last year) 

Goals for November:

  • Read 3 books
  • Clean out the chest freezer
  • Clean and re-organize pantry
  • Write 3 blog posts per week - 2 for that week and 1 for future posting
  • Plan and promo Before Black Friday sale for Etsy shop
  • Eat a healthy breakfast every day
  • Drink at least 64 oz of water
  • Reduce added sugar (exceptions for Birthday week and Thanksgiving weekend)


What are your plans and goals for November?