(Love) believes all things, hopes all things. ~ 1 Corinthians 13:7
Day 7: Love believes the best
When you think of your spouse, what comes to mind first? The things you admire or the things that irritate you? Good habits, qualities, and memories? Or the bad?
We all have failures in our lives.
We all have areas which need growth.
We all have issues, hurts, and baggage.
It is so much easier to focus on our spouse’s failures, downfalls, and issues; while we downplay all of our own negatives.
But love chooses to believe the best about people. It focuses on the positive rather than the negative. It encourages us to meditate on our spouses good attributes instead of dwelling on the negatives.
TODAY’S DARE: FOR TODAY’S DARE, GET OUT TWO SHEETS OF PAPER. ON THE FIRST ONE, SPEND A FEW MINUTES WRITING OUT POSITIVE THINGS ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE. THEN DO THE SAME THING WITH THE NEGATIVE THINGS ON THE SECOND SHEET. PLACE BOTH SHEETS IN A SECRET PLACE FOR ANOTHER DAY. THERE IS A DIFFERENT PURPOSE, AND PLAN FOR EACH. AT SOME POINT DURING THE REMAINDER OF THE DAY, PICK A POSITIVE ATTRIBUTE FROM THE FIRST LIST AND THANK YOUR SPOUSE FOR HAVING THIS CHARACTERISTIC.
No, I am not going to tell you what was on the two lists I made. I will tell you that the first list of positives was much, much longer than the second list of negatives. I take it as a good sign that it was much easier to thing of good things about The Man of the House than negative things!
If there is anything praiseworthy --- meditate on these things. ~ Philippians 4:8